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Lots of folks who would like to experience orgasm struggle with how to create that experience for themselves (whether alone or with a...

I spend a lot of time supporting people to have hard conversations with their partners, and thought maybe I'd spend a few minutes sharing...

Let's chat about some ideas I love that I've learned along the way from the amazing sexuality professionals I've studied with. First...

This is a super interesting concept I learned from the work of Dr. Barry McCarthy and his various co-authors (including his wife, Emily...

I've mentioned in previous blogs that there is no "right" or "normal" amount of desire to experience. Human beings are variable, and...

What do we mean when we say we have "low desire?" It's one of the most common reasons folks seek sex therapy....they are concerned about...

I recently re-read this wonderful book, Magnificent Sex:  Lessons from Extraordinary Lovers,  by Peggy J. Kleinplatz & A Dana Menard. In...

And just as importantly, what turns YOU on? When being sexual with our partner/s, it’s normal for partners to have different agendas for...

As a way of coping with the Supreme Court overturning Roe v Wade, I’ve been immersing myself in dystopian novels that give us a view into...

I wanted to put something out this week about the fact that the U.S. Supreme Court has overturned Roe v Wade, thus removing the legal...

What is Sex Therapy? Sex is a natural, normal part of all of our lives, but we rarely talk about it, and many folks struggle with sexual...

Why talk about trans novels? Because exposure to a variety of voices and life experiences is important. White, heterosexual, cisgender,...

A while back I wrote a blog about the clitoris and realized belatedly that the penis might start to think it's been unfairly excluded...

Lately I have been immersed in a new adventure: Learning about couples therapy! I decided to start with the Gottman Method and branch...

Hi friends! Last week I attended the Keystone Conference for the first time, and I LOVED it! I loved it so much, I thought I’d spend...

“For all the real bitches,” reads the dedication page in Sesali Bowen’s “Bad Fat Black Girl: Notes From a Trap Feminist.” From there,...

It's been 149 years since the 1873 passing of the Federal Comstock Laws prevented the use of the U.S. Postal Service to send "obscene"...

If you have paid any attention at all to the news in past months, surely you’ve heard a story or two about the sex trafficking trial of...

I have been working with folks who have committed sex offenses for about 20 years. In the last five years or so, the term “sex...

I get really crabby about things that are regular themes in our entertainment. Movies, tv shows, books, video games…all kinds of popular...