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4 days ago5 min read

How to start a hard conversation with your partner/s

I spend a lot of time supporting people to have hard conversations with their partners, and thought maybe I'd spend a few minutes sharing...

6 days ago3 min read

Exploring a non-linear model of sex

Let's chat about some ideas I love that I've learned along the way from the amazing sexuality professionals I've studied with. First...

Nov 193 min read

Exploring the "Five Dimensions of Touch"

This is a super interesting concept I learned from the work of Dr. Barry McCarthy and his various co-authors (including his wife, Emily...

Nov 123 min read

Is it "Low Desire," or are you just not in the right mental space?

I've mentioned in previous blogs that there is no "right" or "normal" amount of desire to experience. Human beings are variable, and...

Nov 43 min read

Is it "Low Desire," or do you just not like the sex you're having?

What do we mean when we say we have "low desire?" It's one of the most common reasons folks seek sex therapy....they are concerned about...

Nov 22 min read

Common Sex Myths (And their antidotes!)

I recently re-read this wonderful book, Magnificent Sex: Lessons from Extraordinary Lovers, by Peggy J. Kleinplatz & A Dana Menard. In...

Jul 31, 20223 min read

What turns your partner on?

And just as importantly, what turns YOU on? When being sexual with our partner/s, it’s normal for partners to have different agendas for...

Jul 10, 20224 min read

Let's talk about dystopian feminist novels!

As a way of coping with the Supreme Court overturning Roe v Wade, I’ve been immersing myself in dystopian novels that give us a view into...

Jun 26, 20227 min read

Let's talk about abortion

I wanted to put something out this week about the fact that the U.S. Supreme Court has overturned Roe v Wade, thus removing the legal...

Jun 19, 20223 min read

Let's talk about Sex Therapy!

What is Sex Therapy? Sex is a natural, normal part of all of our lives, but we rarely talk about it, and many folks struggle with sexual...

Jun 11, 20225 min read

Let's talk about my favorite Trans Novels!

Why talk about trans novels? Because exposure to a variety of voices and life experiences is important. White, heterosexual, cisgender,...

Jun 5, 20223 min read

Let's talk about penises!

A while back I wrote a blog about the clitoris and realized belatedly that the penis might start to think it's been unfairly excluded...

May 1, 20223 min read

Are you sabotaging your relationship?

Lately I have been immersed in a new adventure: Learning about couples therapy! I decided to start with the Gottman Method and branch...

Apr 2, 20223 min read

See you at Keystone!

Hi friends! Last week I attended the Keystone Conference for the first time, and I LOVED it! I loved it so much, I thought I’d spend...

Jan 30, 20222 min read

What is Trap Feminism?

“For all the real bitches,” reads the dedication page in Sesali Bowen’s “Bad Fat Black Girl: Notes From a Trap Feminist.” From there,...

Jan 18, 20222 min read

Sex radicals of the Gilded Age

It's been 149 years since the 1873 passing of the Federal Comstock Laws prevented the use of the U.S. Postal Service to send "obscene"...

Jan 9, 20223 min read

What IS sex trafficking?

If you have paid any attention at all to the news in past months, surely you’ve heard a story or two about the sex trafficking trial of...

Dec 12, 20216 min read

Is sex addiction a thing?

I have been working with folks who have committed sex offenses for about 20 years. In the last five years or so, the term “sex...

Nov 17, 20213 min read

Stop romanticizing stalking

I get really crabby about things that are regular themes in our entertainment. Movies, tv shows, books, video games…all kinds of popular...

Oct 20, 20214 min read

Bringing attention to male survivors of sexual abuse

I was driving home from work the other day and heard a story on NPR about former University of Michigan football player Jon Vaughn ...